You’re waiting in line at the grocery store, and can’t help but checking out the fannies of the gals in front of you. You’re in the “12 items or less” line, but the guy at the front of the line seems to have 350 items. Man, is his gut big, you think. He really doesn’t need those chocolate covered raisins. Oh, and look at the next girl. She is skinny. Probably a size 4. But even so, she looks kind of disproportionate. Oh, I wonder what the people behind me are thinking about my tooshie?
You can’t help it. Since you live in a culture in which you were exposed to 250,000 ads by the time you were seventeen, you have been brainwashed. This sick tsunami of messages that scream, “To be thin is to be beautiful, and beauty is almost everything,” has brainwashed you and caused you to be hypercritical of your own body as well as other peoples’ bodies.
All of this negativity and comparison puts you back into the sick merry-go-round of dieting, bingeing, purging (for some) and over-exercising (for some). What would it look like to stop the sick cycle and get off the merry-go-round forever? The first step is to stop the poisonous habit of comparing your body to other peoples’ bodies.
But how can you do this? It has become such an ingrained habit, it is almost as natural as breathing. The first step is to recognize that it is doing a great deal of harm. Women who put up pictures of thin celebrities and/or models often binge after looking at them because they feel like a failure in comparison. The same thing happens when you compare yourself with anyone else’s body.
The next step is to picture a big red stop sign, and to picture screaming, “STOP!” whenever you catch yourself comparing your body to someone else’s. Keep doing this over and over again. You may even want to think of something else, such as a peaceful place like a beach. Or else you might say a prayer to ask God to help you with your body image, or even recite a verse.
Although this won’t be easy, you will begin to notice a change from this “stinkin’ thinkin’ ” pattern. You will notice that your eyes avert from looking so intently and judging your own and other peoples’ bodies. Instead of feeling depressed and like your body is not good enough, you will begin to feel the truth: You are a masterpiece – a unique and beautiful person, and you will begin to celebrate your uniqueness and see your true underlying beauty.