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How much power have you given your scale?
Many people let the numbers dictate whether they have a good day or bad day. They feel like it owns them, and they give it a lot of power in their lives.
Over the past several years counseling women, I’ve encountered many who give their scales that much power. Other women have sadly expressed their mothers did this, and it had a profound effect on their growing up years.
If their mothers weighed in at a lower number, they displayed more of a fun, upbeat side. But if the cloud of weight gain (even a pound or two) hung in the air, the house felt tense and their moms acted depressed.
Eating disorder programs often recommend that patients get rid of their scales. Specialists in the field realize that many of their clients have an obsession with weighing themselves, often stepping on their scale many times each day.
Experts believe people can tell whether they are gaining or losing weight by the way their clothes fit. Besides, weight varies throughout the day, week, and month anyway.
How long will you continue to let your scale cause you to have bad days, weeks, and months? Can you honestly say that you never let the number on the scale – the magic number– influence how you treat people?
You may want to discuss this with safe people whom you trust to give you honest feedback.
If you don’t have the courage to put your scale away long-term, consider a therapeutic separation. That means taking a break, putting it on a cruise to Tahiti or the attic for a while.
My hope and prayer is that you re-think your relationship with your scale and begin asking the tough question: Do you own it, or does it own you?
TRY THIS: Write a letter to your scale. Tell it how you’ve given it too much power in your life (i.e. letting it dictate on many days whether you have a good day or a bad day). Describe in detail how you are tired of the feeling that it owns you. You may even want to give it a name, and suggest that it go away for a period of time.
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