Two weeks ago, I posted a blog about the “stinkin’ thinkin’ ” that happens when we get pulled into the undercurrent of comparing our bodies to other peoples’. This leads to drudgery and despair because you drown in the pool of stinkin’ thinkin’. It consumes you until you start the sick cycle of dieting that leads to bingeing, which leads to purging (for some) and over-exercising (for some). See my posts about the sick cycle for more information.
What would it look like to beat the Body Image Bandit at this comparing game? After all, coveting – and yes, that is exactly what it is – is a very unhealthy animal. So let’s work together to stop coveting and comparing. After all, what good comes out of it? Here are some techniques to catch yourself at the comparing/coveting game and stopping it right then and there:
1. Picture a large stop sign. Picture yourself screaming at the top of your lungs, “STOP!”
(Warning: If you do this for real instead of inside your head, people will laugh and point. So it is best to just picture it inside your head.) This has really helped a lot of people. Keep repeating this over and over until it becomes as natural as eating chocolate chip cookie dough when you are baking cookies. 🙂
2. Stop yourself and ask God to help you. You can’t do it alone. “Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable- if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.” (Philippians 4:8) Repeat that verse to yourself, and you’ll shift to an attitude of gratitude.
3. Change channels! Turn from the Stinkin’ Thinkin’ channel to the “Bless others with your gifts,” channel. Embrace your true gifts, talents, and story. Lean into your true calling, and pursue your passion! How can you embrace your calling and serve instead of obsess about your appearance?
Because after all, thinking about the size of your fanny – in relation to the size of other peoples’ fannies – is definitely not a noble thought. It is a thought of coveting, which leads down to the dark road of depression. So do yourself a favor, and stop that stinkin’ thinkin’ right in its tracks.
Be kind to yourself, and focus on your God-given talents, abilities to bless others. Get your focus off your fanny – and those of other people!