How I Hokey Pokey

In my other life, I swam competitively or ran 6 miles most days. Then, due to lupus and ankylosing spondylitis, I couldn’t breathe or walk for periods of time. Dressing myself seemed like running a marathon. So did using the restroom. I told God, at age 28, “Please take me if this is a preview…

Body Image: Fighting the Lies of the Body Image Bandit

What do you do when the Body Image Bandit bites? For example, let’s say you’re waiting in line at Starbucks. You notice the woman waiting in line ahead of you. She is probably a Zumba queen, and could easily model jeans on a billboard. You pinch your “muffin top” and sigh. But wait. You can…

Body Image, Self-Talk, and the Diet On/Off Switch

Have you noticed that women often sprinkle conversations with comments such as: “I really need to lose weight!” “Do these jeans make my butt look big?” “I can’t buy cute clothes until I’m (drum roll, please)…skinny!” Comments such as these only help perpetuate what I call the Ferocious Foursome, which include:  dieting, bingeing, over exercising,…

Body Image and Skinny Jeans

Last week I saw a woman in her late eighties wearing skinny jeans. But she didn’t look like the picture. She had a bad case of lumpy, bumpy, muffin top-itis.  Oh Lord, stop me if I try to wear something like that when I’m in my 80s. But later I changed my mind. Good for…

Body Image and Thoughts: Stop the Stinking Thinking!

I had a professor who once said, “Trying to control your mind is like trying to control a room full of drunken monkeys.”  When it comes to your own body image, I bet you understand.  How often have you had negative thoughts  such as: What size of clothes does that person wear?  She’s probably a…

Body Image: How Mothers Influence Body Image

A great deal has been written on how fathers play strong roles in the development of their daughters’ eating disorders.  Negative relationships between fathers and daughters create holes in the hearts of their daughters which they believe can be filled by getting and staying thin.  Not surprisingly, girls and women have fallen prey to the jaws…